Anita Charlot

The Radical Life and Relationship Transformationalist!

Have you ever looked up one day only to realize that you have been absent from your life? For the past couple of years I have made a conscious effort to get reacquainted with the person that I have been and to begin to determine the person that I truly want to be.

I have to tell you that is has not been an easy road. There are years that I do not recall specific experiences – I was there in body and mind but not in spirit. During conversations with friends, I heard about certain events that had completely slipped my mind; some of which were so painful that I had blocked them from my memory. How is that possible? How could I have been there, walking, breathing, and interacting, even loving, and not remember without such a determined effort?

This experience was just like driving a familiar path. You get in your car with your destination in mind and voilà … you switch to autopilot and moments later … you have arrived. Well that’s what my life had been like. I’ve mothered, been married and divorced, held several positions in several different industries, received numerous awards, accommodations, promotions, bonuses, ribbons and positive feedback from clients– but where was I during all of this?

I was very successful with the facilitation of my Living Purrfectly Authentic course and I had even taken time to create the philosophy of The 5 Phases of Dating; which had success in both book sales and workshops. My life-coaching clients were making great strides and making changes in their lives for the better, yet I was standing still.

While I had assisted so many people in getting in touch with their Purrfectly Authentic Selves…I had yet to discover my own. During the facilitation one of my 5 Phases of Dating certification workshops, I recognized that I was not living the very philosophy that I was teaching. As the participants asked questions about their dating experiences and I answered their questions, it was as though my spirit heard what my mouth was sharing and identified the disconnect. As a result, before the 6-week workshop ended, I had made the decision to end my relationship.

This was quite an eye-opener for me but one that started me on my path to getting in touch with MY Purrfectly Authentic Self. The recognition that I had “coasted through” 15 years of my life made me take a step back and begin to look at each of the following areas of my life; Spiritual, Mental, Physical, Financial, Career, Recreational, Educational and Relational with the intent to identify what the current condition was of each then what the desired condition would be and set out to bridge the gap.

During the same time I was working on completing my Bachelors in Metaphysics. My coursework forced me to face the deeper questions about my life and to determine the difference between the life that I was living and the life that I truly wanted. This was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Therapy was never as intense as my journey to the depths of myself. The memories that I had to relive, the answers to deeply introspective questions that I had to formulate, doing all of this while maintaining a “straight face” to not only the world but the people that I had identified as having had a major negative impact on my life and having to be present for my children…caused me to live two separate lives.

During my time with others, I was the strong person that had overcome tons of adversities; a role model of sorts. I continued to be the person that everyone turned to for help, advice, compassion and understanding. Yet, I felt so alone. When I tried to share my true feelings with my close circle…they didn’t know how to handle it. I received comments like “What am I suppose to do? You’re always the one that is so strong. I’ve never heard you talk like this…it’s scaring me. Oh, you’re so strong…you’ll be fine.”

I recognized that I had built a life of putting everyone before me. While I had earned my Bachelor's In Metaphysics, I had also received my PhD in Projection. I sought out individuals that exhibited the traits I had within myself that I wanted to fix. Somehow I felt that if I was able to fix/be there for them by being the best employee, the best friend, the best family member, the best girlfriend, the best wife, the most compassionate, then I could heal myself. What I learned was that the more I projected on to others; the more I worked to fix others, the less time I had to focus on myself.

Why am I sharing so much of my personal history with you? Because I believe that it is important for you to know where I’ve been so that you can see that there are unlimited possibilities for you. Taking the time to evaluate my life in all areas, identifying what was truly working for me and what wasn’t gives me an edge. My own experience allows me to truly connect with my clients, whether personal or professional; individual, organization or corporate and assist them in moving toward their truth individually and collectively.

It is my intention to apply the same compassion, understanding, intuition and experience to those with whom I come in contact . Whether personal or professional, each client is treated according to what his or her particular needs are. Together, we get in touch with the truth. Now that I have reconnected with my spirit and I am living my truth, it is my desire to assist others in do so as well; this time from a place of wholeness.

Are you ready to be whole, to reconnect with your spirit, to live from your truth? Isn’t it time you invested in what is most important to you?

Let’s do it…together.